Help With Your Teens

lottieBeing the parent of a teenager is a scary thing these days isn’t it? Do you feel as if life has changed so much since you were 14 that you have no idea how to speak to your teenagers?

But what do you expect? After all, parenting is the toughest job in the world isn’t it? And the teenage years are the worst of all!

Parents tell me they are terrified of:

  • Drugs
  • Alcohol
  • The wrong group of friends
  • Social Media
  • Media images and eating disorders
  • Bullying
  • Pressure to get good grades and go to Uni
  • Anxiety & Depression

And to make it worse they don’t know how to talk about them to their teenagers. They tell me that when they try, they either get objection and argument or complete silence.

Well I’m here to reassure you that it doesn’t have to be this way. There is an alternative.

I can help you understand why the traditional styles of parenting just don’t work anymore and how you can do it differently and still:

  • Stick to your principles
  • Be yourself
  • Be the parent

You know it doesn’t always have to be about confrontation and argument with your teenagers.Often your teenager will be feeling as scared and vulnerable as you. They belong to a peer group that’s all about pushing the boundaries, rebelling, being an adult and keeping up appearances. In some ways they are grown up but in others they need our support and firm guidance along with our trust that they can make decisions and do the right thing.

The best way you can support your teenager is

  • to be able to listen to them without judgement
  • help them to explore possibilities
  • support them in making a decision

That might seem like the impossible to you if the style of parenting you have learnt is about you making all the decisions and telling your teenager what to do and not do. The thing is, that’s how most of us have been parented so how would we know any other way?

I have a different approach to parenting that I can teach you that will give you all the skills you need to:

  • be firm with your teenagers
  • reduce confrontation
  • create a positive relationship

So, if you know you need to do something different before your teenager really needs you pop over to my “Work With Me” page to find the way that suits you best.

Do it the Easy Way

I’m here to reassure you that it doesn’t have to be hard. There is an alternative.

Sometimes teenagers need a bit of space. Sometimes they need solutions. Sometimes they just need to be heard and acknowledged.

Sometimes they, and you, need practical skills, strategies and structures in order to feel on top of a situation.

I can help you understand why traditional styles of parenting just don’t work anymore and how you can do it differently and still:

  • Stick to your principles
  • Be yourself
  • Be the parent

I work with parents in different ways depending on what they want and how I think they would benefit most.To find out what would suit you best book your free 30 minute phone or Skype appointment on or visit Well Kids.

The best way you can support your teenager is:

  • To be able to listen to them without judgement
  • Help them to explore possibilities
  • Support them in making s decision

“I like the relaxed approach that Vicki has. The teaching methods she uses are fun and engaging. My daughter loves her time with Vicki and always looks forward to the next visit!

I would definitely recommend Vicki to other parents.”

SD West Wickham

Fatigue

Fatigue is a condition that is not uncommon in teenagers. We all know that when we have a teenager they can be unco-operative, grumpy and often want to stay in bed until the afternoon. But for some teens it is more than this. They are so out of sorts that their body starts to create symptoms which means they cannot function in their “normal” world.

They might have headaches, nausea, extreme tiredness, unexplained pain, digestive problems. While your teen may not be diagnosed with M.E., Chronic Fatigue or Fibromyalgia you might be worried that they are experiencing some of the symptoms and be searching for a solution.

Exhaustive and Fatigue Conditions are multi-faceted and require a multi-faceted approach to treatment.

I believe it is essential to address all of the areas for recovery to take place.

For more help visit Well Kids/Fatigue

Tuition (Maths & English)

If your child is experiencing difficulties at school (from slow progress or boredom) it can have devastating effects on their confidence and self-esteem. This can lead to a sense of failure, poor confidence and concentration or unhappiness.

You might start to notice illness such as tummy aches and headaches which may lead to absence from school. You might start to have problems settling your child in bed at night because they say they can’t get to sleep or they have nightmares. They might say they have no friends when you know that’s not true. They might stop wanting to go to after school activities they have always enjoyed.

I know, as a parent, this can be baffling, sometime distressing and lead to sleepless nights for you. What do you do when day after day your child won’t go to school? How does that disrupt your life? We just want our kids to be happy, don’t we?

These kinds of problems can have repercussions for the whole family dynamic and lead to stress for all concerned. It’s like a stone dropping into the middle of a pond. The ripples just keep spreading. You feel stressed, tired and unhappy which can lead to arguments and problems throughout your whole family.

Academic problems are rarely as simple as not having the skills to do their work in the classroom. Children worry, they get disheartened, they get upset. I always work on building children’s confidence and their willingness to try something and this starts in the very first session by identifying what they are good at already and what they love doing. I coach them through their anxiety whilst also working on English and Maths skills.

You will find that my approach is so much better for your child. No amount of repetitive learning in centres with unqualified, inexperienced staff will give your child the long term confidence to do well at school.

So what do I do?

Why would you want to bring your child to me when it’s so easy to go to a tuition centre?

I work 1 to 1 with your child, not only teaching them what’s missing in Maths and English, but also building their confidence, teaching them strategies for success and building a sense of fun back into their learning. I am passionate about learning being a life long skill. If you don’t love learning as a child chances are you won’t be willing to learn many new things as an adult. Learning is all about taking risks and being willing to try. I know this is the key to doing well at anything. If you are confident and prepared to have a go, you’ll be great!

I am experienced across the whole primary age group in Maths and English. So whether you need some support with the ever changing Key Stage 1 curriculum, or some booster time for upcoming 11+ tests, or just some general support and confidence boosting give me a ring for some friendly help and advice.

“Vicki instilled in Paul real self confidence as to his ability and has always been encouraging. She made the sessions fun to such an extent that Paul never minded attending every fortnight. Also he had no problem with doing any of the homework she set him. Indeed even though Paul has sat the exams he has expressed a desire to still receive tutoring from Vicki.“ – CJG

Workshops

At different times in the year I run workshops, both live at the clinic and online, to give you, your child’s most important teacher, tips & skills to support your child at home.

Look out for advertised dates or contact us for upcoming dates.

“Crack the Teenage Puzzle” Online Course

On this easy to follow online course you will:

  • understand your teen’s point of view
  • learn the 3 keys to accepting your teen for who they are
  • learn to avoid confrontation
  • know the right and wrong things to say
  • know the simple 5 step system to so that you can always have a positive conversation with your teen
  • know how to relax as a parent